After the wedding bells   

Marriage is a gift from God !!! As a young woman you look forward to finding your Mr Right , a guy who will sweep you off your feet ,  and go on one knee and ask you to marry him... “ITS EVERY GIRLS DREAM” ,so they say, for most cultures and religions. You have one big day that the couple says “I do” in front of loved ones on their beautifully planned day. What happens the years after? Why do most people I talk to, say only negative things about it? The famous one is “A person changes after marriage”, “they become controlling, demanding”. In terms of looks they let themselves go which makes them less attractive to their partners “which leads to cheating”. And one of the partners tend to compromise more than the other, which in return makes them feel like they are putting more effort than the other, like I said there’s a lot of negative things that people say about marriage and it’s not one gender, it’s both man and female, and the common thing is that both genders blame each other. When one talks to an older person they just say “marriage is not child’s play, you have to be patient and mature”, but patient for what or for how long? And what about people who are abused? How long are they supposed to be patient? Like maybe get more insight from them. Like, I always wonder if it’s different from having a best friend that you end up living with. Even though you’ll are best friends you’ll still have differences and disagreements. You talk things through with your best friend ,where as, they say some marriages have bad communication or no communication at all.“Don’t know which is worse” ....bad communication or no communication? I guess there’s no manual or guide lines for marriage. Everyone has a different story to tell because they say what might of helped you in your marriage might not help the next person, but could make them mature. Maybe it’s a matter of loving and learning more about your partner everyday, as well as, inviting God into the relationship. You know it’s kind of scary for some of us young woman who dream about getting married one day, when there’s so much unanswered questions. What really happens after the big day? Share your story and opinion to help the SISTERS out.....khwezi :)